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It’s been a very trying fortnight. Everything was happening all at once, issues requiring attention piling up on top of each other consecutively without showing any signs of stopping or slowing down. And it was all happening so fast I hardly had any time to catch my breath. I tackled issue after issue, dealing with them respectively in the best way I could possibly manage, until I reached the tipping point of my already-stretched tolerance.
I pride myself in the endless warmth I can (and want to) give to others, strangers and acquaintances included, and I live by that every single day. And as much as I’d like that warmth to be limitless, I do indeed, have my limits —— admittedly, especially when I don’t take the time to stop, breathe, and recollect. Because one of the things I don’t particularly favour is others taking that warmth for granted, or mistaking it for weakness. And following that, attempt to take advantage of the situation.
Rarely do I run into such situations these days (and fortunately so), but if and when I do, I notice I no longer blow up once I’m past that point of endurance —— I’ve learnt that it doesn’t do me or others any good, and neither does it get us anywhere; the energy from it could in fact, be put to so much better use —— but instead, turn cold. Or so I’ve been told.
i. Take time off for yourself, and to recollect. I’ve learnt the crucial importance of this these past two weeks. To stop —— or at least pause, sit back, and breathe. To restore ourselves ever so often, especially when we’re at the brink of being overwhelmed, or run the risk of tiring and burning out.
ii. Choose the people you surround yourself with wisely. Very wisely. It’s your tribe, after all. People either inspire you, or they drain you. As Jim Rohn said, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. The circle(s) we keep influences our thoughts, actions, and approaches over time. Keep the right company, surround yourself with positive and remarkable people who build you up and support you as you go along your journey.
iii. Accept that you can’t please everyone, and base your decisions on the values you believe in. As long as your intentions are good and do no harm, there’s no need to seek approval so much, and at the expense of your happiness at that. What’s more important are your values and the moral compass you follow. As a matter of fact, I struggle with this every day.
iv. You determine your own self-worth. There’s not much point (if any) depending on someone to tell you your value and worth as what they might think actually says much more about them than it does about you, and that includes their own self-imposed limits and insecurities.
v. Always strive to be better, whilst practising gratitude. Seek continuous improvement in any and every aspect possible, and at the same time, be thankful for what you currently have and have had in your life. Constantly challenge yourself as complacency kills. The only limits present are the limits you impose upon yourself.
I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.
—— Mahatma Gandhi
All the more so since I’m Asian/Chinese. Shoes by the door, please.